"God has been very good to me, for I never dwell upon anything wrong which a person has done, so as to remember it afterwards. If I do remember it, I always see some other virtue in that person? (St. Teresa of Avila).

How often that is not how we think. If someone hurts us, we become fixated on that hurt. We don't let it go. What does that do to our relationship with God? St. Teresa gives us a different approach. To focus on the hurt sees the fault of the other. But in each person there is some good quality. If I think rather about this, the fault of the other dose not become a fixation. I am sure she didn't come to this reality except through much practice. But once she did, how much freer and fuller her life became. That is the journey to holiness.