"Detachment is often understood as letting loose of what is attractive. But it sometimes also requires letting go of what is repulsive. You can indeed become attached to dark forces such as resentment and hatred. As long as you seek retaliation, you cling to your own past. Sometimes it seems as though you might lose yourself along with your revenge and hate – so you stand there with balled-up fists, closed to the other who wants to heal." Henri Nouwen

How often we do more damage to ourselves than to the other by holding on to the hurts of the past! While the other has moved on and probably forgotten the event, we remain locked in the past, while life passes us on. We fail to remember or refuse to remember that our relationship with God and others is rooted in love and forgiveness, mercy and healing and not in stewing in anger and un-forgiveness. We fail to remember that God, rich in mercy, has shown us his forgiveness for the many sins we have committed, which are far greater than what was committed against us. Ask for the grace to forgive and act on this grace.